A Rock N Roll Mom Signs Off

I have so enjoyed sharing my early experiences of pregnancy and childbirth with all of you, but not unlike my son who came shooting out of my vagina many weeks early, so will this blog end, much earlier than I anticipated.

Sure, days are busy and it’s hard to find the time to do a post almost everyday but what’s more is that I find myself absolutely entrenched in the topic of parenthood, whether I’m living it, loving it, writing about it or researching it.

In short, I am going mad. Like a fruity scrap-booking fanatic with 80 cats.

Very ironic that a blog about motherhood has been canceled by my need to be a mother – a more relaxed mom. Blogging made me glad to document my experience, but it also made me, well…feel a little more neurotic. And for those of you who know me intimately, extra neurosis on the menu is, frankly, not a good idea.

I learned so much from the past few years and after nearly 5 months of blogging I learned even more. I kind of think it comes down to this:

For all the science and opinion on parenting (thanks to our fascination/unhealthy relationship with the Internet, our constant comparisons to other parents and their children, and our obsessions with wanting to be the best caregivers that ever were) nothing is more important than filtering out the unnecessary drivel, raising your child with love and compassion, being in the now, encouraging him or her, without resorting to shame or humiliation, to be fearless. Through it all, somehow we parents have to be fearless ourselves, and find a way to take in a deep breath and relax about the gravity and insanity of bringing another human into this world. On one level, it’s like – what are we thinking? And on another, it’s blissfully – what were we thinking to wait so long?

Thank you for reading.

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Songwriting

A lot of my musician friends are so apprehensive to give birth, worried they will no longer have time or inspiration to write music and all I can say is…watch Love Shines: The Ron Sexsmith Story…a wonderful doc about the influence of parenthood on the career of a national songwriting treasure. And remember, you can do so much while you’re pregnant. Some people tour and work right up until the end. And in the first 6 months of baby’s life, he or she will sleep a lot and you can do a lot of writing during naps or while baby is exploring on his or her own. I actually found it was nice for Ronan to hear me playing piano in the early days. It put him to sleep at times, which is a comment I have heard a few times, even from grown humans. Good or bad? You be the judge!

Reading to baby

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In February 2009, when Ronan, born five weeks early was in his incubator in the special nursery at the hospital Sean busted out the Dr. Suess. Crazy? Not really. We all know that babies can hear in the womb so before that we read to him too. Not “Ulysses” or anything but the odd book. [...]

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Spicy Food Breastfeeding

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I often wondered if spicy food, eaten while nursing…well, not WHILE nursing…you know what I mean… affects baby. Turns out, it does not affect baby adversely. Think about it, some cultures have loads of spicy food in their daily menu and they have babies too! We are so self-absorbed in our culture! Thank god we [...]

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Baby and TV

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Researchers say TV and baby are a bad combo. How much of a scientist do you have to be to figure this one out? I consider it a challenge and a privilege to find ways to get things done during the day without succumbing to baby being plopped in front of the TV. Okay, Ronan [...]

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Critics

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Like a bad review of a show or concert, some stray comments can keep you up for days thinking about your parenting. People are so lame, they don’t mean to be insulting, they just don’t have anything better to contribute to conversation. I found you must always consider the source when someone says something to [...]

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Sample Baby Schedules

Things change so rapidly in the first few months of baby’s life – feeding patterns, sleeping patterns, moods, types and sizes of poopies, need for stimulation etc that I found it very helpful to look at sample schedules. Babycenter has several sample schedules that I found interesting. Some for breastfeeding moms, some for formula-fed, some [...]

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Cluster Feeds

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There were a few instances where Ronan would cluster feed, which means that he became agitated frequently and what he really needed was just a crap-load of milk. These can come at any time, and can be confusing the first few times. Breast milk happens to pass through an infant far more quickly than formula. [...]

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Baby Breaks

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It’s important if you are a full-time mommy to have some time to yourself. In between massages, here are some home treatments and products that I have found useful to “perk oneself up”. Canadian-made Magic Bag! Heat it up or throw it in the freezer. Great for achy shoulders. Stella McCartney products. Eco-friendly and obviously [...]

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Breasts Breasts Breasts

One of my first trips away from baby was when I went to Vancouver to ay the Paralympics in March 2010. Ronan was 6 weeks old. I thought I would finally get some sleep on this brief jaunt away from my gorgeous little guy. Woah. Wayyyyyyy wrong. I played the show, pumped some milk and [...]

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